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Ashley James has slammed mum-shamers after she faced a barrage of criticism when she posted snaps about her life as a mother-of-two.

During an Instagram Q&A, the TV personality, 36, candidly opened up about parenting son Alf, three and daughter Ada, ten months.

She explained how she hasn’t yet taken her two children for a day out on her own, instead preferring family trips out with her partner Tommy or having her kids’ grandparents help out. 

A follower asked the question: ‘Have u ever taken both your children out for the day just yourself and them. Never seen it.’

Ashley replied that she ‘gets asked this question a lot and the insinuation is I’m pathetic for not.’

Ashley James has slammed mum-shamers after she faced a barrage of criticism when she posted snaps about her life as a mother-of-two.

Ashley James has slammed mum-shamers after she faced a barrage of criticism when she posted snaps about her life as a mother-of-two. 

‘The answer is, no I don’t and haven’t taken them out on my own (other than to take them to childcare). In the house I have them alone.’

She explained how she works all week so the children are in childcare and her partner is present at the weekend so there is little need or opporunity to do solo days out.

Explaining how toddler Alf still needs a lot of attention and baby Ada is breastfed, Ashley pointed out: ‘I don’t want to struggle for no reason,’ adding: ‘I imagine those who ask that question wouldn’t ask the same question to a dad. And I also don’t think we have to be martyrs over struggle if we don’t have to.’

Expanding on her answer, Ashley later uploaded a video in which she said: ‘Do you know what’s so weird? This sort of like weird competitiveness and judgement around motherhood that you just wouldn’t have in any other part of life. 

Like, “Do you take your kids out on your own? Cos obviously I do. It’s not easy, but I do it.” Like imagine if I was like, “Have you been solo travelling because it’s not easy, but I’ve done it. Have you talked on live TV? It’s not easy, but you know I’ve done it.” 

‘It’s like such a weird..obviously we all live different lives, have different strengths, different weaknesses, and also completely different circumstances.’

She added: ‘I feel really lucky that I haven’t had to have them on my own, but I don’t think anyone goes round saying to Tommy, “Have you not had them on your own? have you not taken them out on your own? no, no, no, it’s fine, I’m not judging. It’s just because you know, I do it all the time.” It’s so funny isn’t it? It’s just like, I support everyone. 

Later that day, Ashley took to her social media once more to show her followers that she was on her own with her children.

During an Instagram Q&A, the TV personality , 36, candidly opened up about parenting son Alf, three and daughter Ada, ten months

During an Instagram Q&A, the TV personality , 36, candidly opened up about parenting son Alf, three and daughter Ada, ten months 

She explained how she hasn't yet taken her two children for a day out on her own, instead preferring family days out with her partner Tommy or having her kids' grandparents help out

She explained how she hasn’t yet taken her two children for a day out on her own, instead preferring family days out with her partner Tommy or having her kids’ grandparents help out 

However in a turn of events, it happened that later that day she was left on her own with the children in the park as her partner Tommy went to support his pal at Dancing on Ice

However in a turn of events, it happened that later that day she was left on her own with the children in the park as her partner Tommy went to support his pal at Dancing on Ice

Ashley uploaded a video to her followers and joked could they all pray for her as she handled the two tots on her own

Ashley uploaded a video to her followers and joked could they all pray for her as she handled the two tots on her own

In a park where she carried Ada and watched Alf on the slide, Ashley told her followers that she on her own with them.

She said: ‘As fate would have it, Tommy has just left to go see Ryan on Dancing on Ice, so look who’s on her own with the kids, out of the house. Pray for me!’

She also responded to a question asking if she was looking to move back to the capital, saying that she missed London, her friends and that moving to Essex had left her feeling really lonely. 

In the honest reply, the former Made In Chelsea star spoke about how she ‘struggled a lot’ when lockdown ended as her life was so different and she ‘mourned a childfree life’.

She said: ‘Going from 0-1 was definitely so much harder than 1-2 for me personally. Firstly, lockdown I’m sure played a part because we were isolated and there was uncertainty even around allowing partners in birth.

She also responded to a question asking if she was looking to move back to the capital, saying that she missed London, her friends and that moving to Essex had left her feeling really lonely

She also responded to a question asking if she was looking to move back to the capital, saying that she missed London, her friends and that moving to Essex had left her feeling really lonely

‘Then I struggled alot with when lockdown ended and everyone elses life went back to normal and my normal looked so different. 

‘I mourned a childfree life – being a DJ, travelling the world etc. I was battling the identity of being a mum. Plus, Alf was a really hard baby and I couldn’t ever leave him.’

She explained how as ‘the more I get older the more I want to be around my girlfriends’ who mostly live in London.

She added that both she and Tommy were ‘really excited for the next chapter’ back in the capital.  

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