A woman has shared five of the ‘worst’ character traits she’s come across in people and partners – and why anyone who ticks the same boxes will never be in her life.
Simona has been burned by several exes and fake friends who took advantage of her kindness and generosity.
She has since made a list of the types of people she refuses to associate with – and why setting clear boundaries has helped her mental health.
Simona cannot overlook when a person cannot keep their word and cannot regulate their emotions.
She also dislikes when people always have to be ‘right’, don’t have any emotional intelligence, and are stingy.
Simona has been burned by several exes and fake friends who took advantage of her kindness and generosity
1) Someone who cannot keep their word
Many people make empty promises or commit to activities they don’t intend on following up with – and it makes them hard to rely on.
‘If they keep yapping on with zero action, they have to go,’ Simona said.
2) When they’re bad at regulating emotions
‘If they get angry, they lash out, yell, name-call – that’s a red flag,’ she said.
‘Someone who is a slave to their emotions will always be like that. If they cannot practice discipline when they are going through something difficult – they will always be a loose cannon.’
Simona claimed that a person who always has to be right is the ‘most irritating to be around’.
It’s important to surround yourself with people who apologise when they’re wrong and take accountability for their actions.
4) People with zero emotional intelligence
Simona has often gone to friends in vulnerable situations only for them to tell her to ‘calm down’ and ‘not stress’.
‘They don’t even have the emotional intelligence to listen to you or hold space for you when you’re having a problem,’ she said.
5) Stingy people
‘Cheap people are the worst,’ she said. ‘When you go to dinner with them and they’re like, ‘Well your drink was $2.60 more than mine’ I think it’s so childish.’
She warned to watch out for those who nitpick at bills a lot and ‘forget’ to pay you back.
Many agreed with Simona’s opinions.
‘I started splitting the bill – I just pay for myself if I’m around new people because I had people take advantage of me financially,’ one shared.
‘The needing to be right is exhausting,’ another said. ‘My ex was constantly correcting my pronunciation and always trying to one-up me in every situation.’
But some took issue with a few of Simona’s points.
‘Why don’t you have grace for people who can’t control their emotions? We’re in therapy and working on it,’ a man said.
‘It takes time and practice for people to learn how to regulate their emotions. It’s never okay but not enough to write someone off,’ a second added.